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Scrapbook: Mr. Comparison

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Breanna Rose recently wrote about “Mr. Comparison” – that “creeper” who enters your life and reminds you of what others are doing and what you’re not doing. Mr. Comparison makes you feel down for not doing what everyone else is and Mr. Comparison makes you feel alone for paving your own way. He seems like a nice guy but he really isn’t – he’s slows you down as you try to follow everyone else’s footsteps. He has come into my life before and you know what I do to throw him out? I put my blinders on, look forward, and don’t get distracted by what is going on to the left or to the right of me. Not being diverted or sidetracked by my surroundings, I’m more in tune with what I want and the direction I want to take. At the beginning of this year, Mr. Comparison was close to getting too close to me, but I’ve been really proud of myself lately that I was able to shun him out of my life and stay on target. Since he’s been out of sight and mind, it’s been fun watching Tilly, LaurenAmy, and all the other seamstresses around the web make things that represent them as a sewer, and it’s also been thrilling to keep up with them by making my own things that are unique me. So take that Mr. Comparison!

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    Natasha Estrada

    There was this song that was mildly popular in the 90’s. The first lines were: “They call you Mr Personality because your so ugly” So thats what I would have to say to Mr Comparison.

    Benchmarking is sometimes a good way to measure success but usually comparisons let to analysis paralysis a syndrome I just discovered (in the last 15 seconds) where the sufferer spends too much time comparing all kinds of minute things and using that information to guide their actions.

    The cure is not giving a rat’s ass about how things stack up in comparison to others. We live in a social media world where we can manipulate the way we are presented to others and perceived (look how awesome my hair and skin looks in the photo) We paint false pictures of who we are but then we compare the real us against the pretty paintings other people paint. It’s not real.

    Chances are you’re doing much better than most people you know.

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      Maddie Flanigan

      I recently read/saw an article that said Facebook is causing more people to suffer from depression because all we see is the happy lives OTHER people are living (because people usuall upload uplifting photos/status’) and the normal life we are living. You know what I say to that? Just because someone is smiling in a picture does not mean they’re happy.

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        Natasha Estrada

        Yeah “facebook” image crafting. I think for a whole week I should post what I am actually doing. Today I woke up at 10:30 and ate 3 cookies and a handful of peach rings for breakfast #likeaboss

        Oh no wait even that sounds good.

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          Natasha Estrada

          The reality is I got some new leather sewing machine needles in the mail and I really want to try them out #sewingmachinegeekery

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    cris

    Good point, Natasha! and Madalynne, I soo love the collage!!

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      Maddie Flanigan

      Thank you!

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    SewJillian

    Oh it’s so very easy to want to measure up. But measure up to what??? I find myself looking at the latest indie pattern craze and thinking “really?” because I just don’t get the attraction. But still feeling mildly pressured to get on board! There is no doubt that those that jump on board get the most blog traffic, but it’s just not worth my time. Stay true, lovely, stay true 🙂

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    Carlee McTavish

    I was just going to mention the “Facebook effect” but then saw you already have! That thing is seriously toxic.

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    anto

    Oh, Mr Comparison loves to make the rounds! Whenever he knocks on my door (more like barges in -how rude!-) I do exactly the same. I try to stay focused and remind myself why I am doing what I am doing. He has been lingering around a little this week but he’s on his way out.

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    Silvia - Sewing Princess

    My two cents: set your goal and focus on achieving that. E.g. my goal is not to write a book or become U.S. president…so, I shouldn’t compare myself to those who achieve that and feel miserable. It wasn’t my goal in the first place. Also, wanting more is a positive and motivational aspiration but it can also be the detrimental, i.e. never being happy with what you have achieved. Great collage, Maddie

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      Maddie Flanigan

      I love this! Why compare myself to those who are achieving something completely different than what I’m after? A saying my mom used to recite to me is coming to mind – “If it doesn’t involve you, stop worrying about it.”

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    sallieforrer

    This is the number one reason why I avoid most social media (except for blogs of course)! And the comparison bug comes in and bites us all in the ass sometimes – there’s just no way around it! I had a bit of an attack earlier this summer and needed to take a break from it all so I could refocus on what’s important to ME. Lovely collage, and great reminder to stay tuned to the (positive) inner voice!

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      Maddie Flanigan

      I think we’ve all had our fair share of experiences with Mr. Comparison. He’s evil!

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    david1pelletier

    Cleverly written Maddie! Mr Comparison detracts us from our goals but worst of all are our inner Mr.Comparisons, those voices we sometimes need to shut in our heads telling us we’re not good enough. We all are good enough to achieve our dreams which are unique to each of us and therefore not comparable.

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    Shelley Pleger

    I’ve got one of those inner Mr. Comparisons and he always pops up whenever I go to Deviant Art and see work that’s twice my skill level by people half my age. > : )
    A couple of Trader Joe cookies and I’m good to go again.

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      Maddie Flanigan

      Ha! Cookies always solve problems!

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    Shelley Pleger

    Reminds me…the title of this post alone grabbed me.

    http://www.fashion-incubator.com/archive/how-to-motivate-yourself-with-envy/

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    Deanna Pryce

    ‘Our Struggle with Insecurity comes when we compare our ‘Behind-the-Scenes’ footage’ with Everyone Else’s ‘News Highlights’ reel.’ (Steve, Furtick, Tiny Buddha). This has stopped me from moving forward in my business so many times…..I’ve quit-cold turkey-just up and ‘closed shop’ just to oh so gingerly tip toe over to the ‘Closed’ sign and timidly flip it back over again.. It is very very hard putting yourself ‘out there’……

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      Natasha Estrada

      It is entirely possible to be successful without being even close to the very best. We can’t all be rainbow farting unicorns

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        Maddie Flanigan

        Very true Natasha and I have to add to it – you don’t have to have a good product to be successful. Example – the Snuggie. That thing is aweful, but because of good marketing, it’s wildly popular.

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          Natasha Estrada

          And the people who bought it think it’s awesome. As long as you’re not afraid to embrace a market that you think has no taste then in general your item will sell. We can’t all be cool either. So keep that store open Deanna.

          • Deanna Pryce

            ‘Door is Open’ Natasha! thank you!

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        Deanna Pryce

        Ha!! that is so funny! thank you for your sage words Natasha – may use that imagery in the future!

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