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Weekend: Losing a Sewing Friend

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was about finding happiness after something bad happens. Someone somewhat close to me, someone in the sewing world, died suddenly last week (sorry for the redundancy). To respect her privacy, I won’t say her name, and I’ll only reflect on what a wonderful woman she was. And no, the now-deceased is not Mishka.

When I was just starting out in my sewing career, she recognized my passion and allowed me to work after hours so that I could learn and grow as a seamstress. As of a week ago, we talked more than once a week, and our conversations were always thrilling – slashing and opening, armhole depth, balance, etc. It was two weeks ago that I last spoke to her and now she’s not here. That gets to me. It makes me realize that life is transient and not permanent. I had this same feeling after my mom died, and it lit a fire inside me to not waste time and make my life matter.Β All of us won’t be here forever, so we need to make ever moment count. For the four years I knew this women, she made me feel like I mattered and she made every moment of our time count. I will miss her dearly.

I got the news around the same time a snowstorm hit. A lot of people struggle with the snow and the cold, but as I was driving the morning after, I passed by a graveyard and couldn’t help but think how beautiful it was. I drove in… the snow was fresh, and the sun was shining. Even though it was a solemn, and on that particular morning, a white place to be, color was blooming all around.

So as the heart of winter approaches, instead of struggling with the bleak days, I’m going to try make every day worthwhile.

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    Sofie M

    I’m sorry for your loss. I went to the funeral of a beautiful lady yesterday – a school mum I knew. She has three kids and a wonderful husband. She really lived her life and made a difference. It makes me very sad for her kids. That’s life unfortunately.

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      Maddie Flanigan

      I’m sorry to hear about your loss as well. Death is a horrible thing, but it smacks you in the face with appreciation.

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    Natasha Estrada

    People always ask me how I can work with the dying and the answer is those with the few moments left in front of you can teach you the most about living.

    Your emotions on her passing is proof that she spent her life doing things that matter and connecting with people that will remember her. As you progress in life there will be more moments when you are forced to let go before you are ready.

    I don’t think it gets any easier and I don’t think it’s supposed to.

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      Maddie Flanigan

      I agree with you. When my mom was in her last month/week (Hospice) and she knew she was going to die, she said some very powerful, meaningful, and true statements that I won’t forget.

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    david1pelletier

    Maddie, so sorry to read about your loss. I know how it feels, that numb horrible feeling that hits you in the face…sending you good thoughts from London to help you a little…

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    anto

    Maddie, I am so sorry for your loss. Your words truly reflect that this must have been an extraordinary woman and, it seems to me, that she valued the most important things, like making meaningful and long-lasting connections.

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    Blessed

    Sorry for your loss of someone special and that the loss was sudden, which I think is harder. I just lost my two best friends, one suddenly and one slowly. It’s tough. I, too, have been focusing on looking at winter as a beautiful and lovely thing! I loved winter as a child and asked myself why I can’t adopt that view now! Peace to you and your healing.

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      Maddie Flanigan

      I’m sorry to hear about your loss too and my thoughts are with you as well.

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    Ginger

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Life can be so short, but you’ve really got the right idea– valuing people and your time with them. I’ll be thinking of you.

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    tiff

    we have been walking this since New Years. thanks for your reflections. i am so loving your blog!

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      Maddie Flanigan

      Thank you πŸ™‚

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    Amanda Russell

    Beautiful words, they brought tears to my eyes because you’re so right… the loss of someone so dear is heartbreaking and yet there is always beauty and purity to be found in its wake. Much love and comfort to you in this difficult time XOXOX

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    Jennifer Phillips

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have been thinking a lot about how we only get so many days on this planet to make a difference, so I’ve been trying to stretch a little more each day, whether that be reaching out to a stranger, trying something that scares me ( a big one lately), or just letting down my expectations and going with the flow. You are absolutely right.

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    Lady ID

    I’m sorry to hear about your friend. I pray God gives her family and friends (including you) the strength to celebrate her life as you deal with her absence.

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    Rosie Wednesday

    So sorry for your loss, but what a wonderful way to handle it.

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    Amy

    Oh, I’m so sorry to hear. My thoughts are with you.

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    Michelle N

    So sorry to hear of your loss. But thankful to hear of the wonderful impact this dear friend had on your life. What wonderful memories to carry with you and cherish.

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    Lisa

    Sorry to hear about your friend. Thanks for sharing.

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    Pauline alice

    I’m sorry for your loss. It’s so great you have those beautiful memories with her.

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    dixie

    I’m sorry to hear about your friend πŸ™ but I’m glad you’re taking it in stride and finding motivation to make the most out of life. She must have been a very inspiring person. *hugs*

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    Bimbo

    Sorry about your loss. I pray God comforts her family. Always so sad hearing such news.

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